Dynamics between homeschooled siblings are different than between school kids, because of the huge amount of togetherness. Sometimes it can be glorious. They can spend hours lost in their own imaginary, ever-changing world, helping each other through hard times and obstacles. And there are obvious challenges. Too much togetherness can cause friction between anybody, even if they are very skilled at negotiating compromises and differing opinions.
Now that Camille has returned to homeschooling, we are all adjusting to this togetherness. It has been really and truly, mostly good, even great, but when it's not, my skills at helping them manage their strong emotions are put to the test.
One thing that helps us is to change up the dynamics. I try to spend some one on one time with each of my girls whenever I can, even if it's just bringing one along to the grocery store when Papa is available to watch the other two. These times are cherished and are the scene of some of our best, most meaningful conversations.
Today my girls got in a loud, drawn-out, angry argument. Want to know what they were fighting about? Who would be the one to drive Ayla around and take care of her, when they both had their driver's licenses, but Ayla didn't yet. They figured out that Ayla would be nine when Camille was sixteen. It's actually a pretty sweet thing to argue about, but they were getting very upset with each other. No amount of interjecting that they could have this conversation when they were a little older deterred them.