a rare three-headed turkey gobbling and flapping by the trail side
I don't generally push my own parental agenda (even 'for their own good' in most situations), but there are times when I know that a little gentle encouragement will bring about a better outcome. How do you gauge the difference?
With bedtimes, I don't dictate, "It's 8:30 (or whenever). Time to get ready for bed."
I prefer to say (not at an arbitrary time, but when it's true), "You look sleepy. Let's go brush our teeth together. Then if you're still not ready, you could watch another episode, or we could snuggle and read together, or watch a nature movie in my bed...." There's lots of options and very minimal stress and struggle this way, but it means that I can't count on everything being quiet in my house by 9.
It's a fine balancing act to gently guide without using coercion, but positive relationships can be nurtured this way.